Women – 5 Ways to Start Taking Care of Yourselves

self loveThe words “women” and “excellent self-care” aren’t likely to appear together very often in the same sentence. The truth is women often feel guilty spending time or money on themselves. As I work with clients, both in Reiki Healing and in my Image consultations, I see over and over again, the imbalance women bring upon themselves. We give out to others, more than we give back to ourselves. So ladies, below are 5 ways to get started on taking care of yourselves.

Sometimes a traumatic event breaks this decades-long pattern. Consider these:

1. There’s a diagnosis from a doctor about a very serious or life-threatening disease. “I have to start taking care of myself,” she thinks. In fact, her life depends upon it.
2. The death of a parent can invite change. With the roles shifting within the family, a woman could be asking herself, “Who am I now?” Her internal search may result in some external changes.
3. Love relationships change. The trauma of divorce or a romantic breakup can be shattering. It’s as if a planet has spun out of orbit. Somehow a woman has to re-orient herself and create a new world. Change is forced.

But change can be a choice that’s made without a sudden and serious lifestyle catalyst. New patterns can be learned. It can be very nurturing to say to oneself, “I want to get to know you; I want to take care of you; I want to put you first for a change.”

The quickest way to reflect change and get positive feedback is to focus on improving, with baby steps, your personal appearance. By taking care of your outer self, you’re taking care of your whole self. Acts of self-care add up and soon you’re feeling less neglected or resentful and more confident and beautiful.

Here are some ways to get started.

1. Accept yourself right where you are. You don’t have to know what steps are required to create a confident personal image. There are people who are great at this and they can be of service to you now. They might be professional hair stylists, wardrobe consultants, image consultants, or makeup artists. All of these service providers can teach you a technique or two that can make a big difference in how you look and feel about yourself.

2. Start asking around. A referral may be just one conversation away. If someone is demonstrating great style and ease about their wardrobe, ask them if they get some help. If you see someone with a great haircut, ask who helps her with her hair. Getting referrals is a great, safe way to begin.

3. Start to mentally carve time out for yourself. Be prepared to say no to some things so you can say yes to yourself. Your self-care project deserves some space in your calendar. Guard that personal time; don’t give it away!

4. Make a first appointment. Follow through. Then weigh the “next step” suggestions that come up. Take another step.

5. While you may be a pro at encouraging friends or family members in their endeavors, you may not be good at giving yourself encouragement. Follow up your actions with some self-cheer. Celebrate with a friend. Have a drink after work or lunch on a Saturday. Demonstrate in public the new things you’ve learned about style, makeup, or colors. Don’t be flustered when the compliments start showing up. Just say, “Thank you.” These baby steps you take will give you quick feedback that will make it easier to take the next step.

As an image professional I’ve been a witness to the transitions people go through when they start taking care of themselves. Believe me, no one regrets those first steps. I can help you get started plus I have a great referral list of people that can help. Together you can start to master the art of self-care. I’ll support you all the way.

Please take note of the following workshop and teleclass!

Workshop: Thursday, April 24, 2014  6:30 – 8:30 pm
Karen’s most popular image workshop… Dress For Your Body Type
Bradford Library
Few spots left, so register NOW! Click here for more info on the remaining workshops.

Three Women With a View… Teleclass
The last Wednesday of each month April 30, Theme is “Earth Day Gratitude
What does image have to do with Earth Day Gratitude? Dial in and find out!!
Dial 1-661-673-8605 Access code. 814245#

I welcome your feedback! You can leave a comment right here on the site, connect with me via email or telephone or click the contact tab at the bottom of the screen if you are reading this post via email.

Until next time,

Karen

Spring Fashion – Are You a Colour Clash or a Colour Compliment?

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Spring is here and most of us are excited to be wearing lighter and brighter clothes.  Seeing the beautiful spring colours in the store windows brings a smile to my face. However, the colours featured in the spring fashion palette do not make my smile look bright, white and dazzling, because they are warm colours of peach, yellow, lime green and lilac. Since I have a “cool” skin undertone, I look sallow when I wear warm colours. Are You a Colour Clash or a Colour Compliment?

Wearing unflattering colours can make you look tired, older than your age and can actually deplete your energy.

When you wear clothing in colours that are too strong for your complexion, hair and eyes, they are the attention getters, not you. Bright or neon colors can seem to enter a room before you do. All anyone can see is the colour and you go missing.

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5 Tips for the In-Between Fashion Season

fashion expert york regionIt’s that time of year. You look in your closet and nothing looks fun or interesting. You’re sick of your wardrobe, your skin needs some vitamin D, and you’re ready to come out of hibernation. But how do you put spring in your fashion step when the weather’s not cooperating? No worries, here are 5 tips for changing up your look in this transitional time between seasons.

1. Show (the illusion of) More Skin

  • Layer long-sleeved sheer tops over camisoles and add a swing cardigan in a lighter color if you need more warmth.
  • Choose a lower neckline. Try a scoop neck long-sleeved T-shirt or sweater instead of a crew neck.
  • Cuff your skinny jeans and wear flats or ankle booties to show off a bare ankle.
  • Swap out opaque black tights for colored ones or replace tights with nude fishnets or other open-weave, patterned hosiery.

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14 Signs Your Wardrobe is in Great Shape

Spring wardrobeSpring is finally peeking through the rays of the sun and what does this mean? It means time to review what is in your closet and prepare for your summer wardrobe! Here are 14 signs that ensure your closet and wardrobe is in the best shape it can be.

1. Only clothing you can wear in the current season is in your closet. Clothes for the opposite season are stored away.

2. Nearly everything is visible when you open your closet doors. Clothes and accessories aren’t hidden away.

3. Shoes are on shoe racks and every single pair is in good condition.

4. Your dry-cleaning, alterations, shoe and handbag repairs aren’t buried in your closet somewhere. You’ve already dropped them off and they’re ready to be picked up this week.

5. You have outfit combinations that you’re 100% sure about.

6. Your accessories are easy to grab whether they’re in your closet or on a dressing table.

7. Handbags are organized on a shelf or hung on a rack. Stuffing is placed inside of them to help keep their original shape. You’ve recently reconditioned them with leather lotion.

8. All the hangers are the same color and design. No clothing items are being damaged by the use of wire hangers.

9. Clothing is organized in a way that makes sense to you—either by color, type of item or lifestyle category.

10. You have an outfit you could put on in five minutes for any occasion including dressy or casual parties, sporting events, girl’s night out, romantic dinners, interviews, festivals or funerals.

11. All the clothes in your closet are in colors that flatter you and complement your coloring.

12. Everything in your closet fits you now or within a five-pound fluctuation. Anything smaller or larger is stored away or given away.

13. Everything in your closet makes you happy. You’re not hanging on to clothes that don’t suit you or conjure up bad memories or make you feel bad about yourself.

14. You have your image consultant’s phone number on speed dial, and you don’t hesitate to call her when you need help!

Join me the last Wednesday of every month at 7 pm for my teleclass “Three Women With a View.’” The call in number is 1-661-673-8605 access code is: 814245#

This month’s call is “Swing Into Spring.”

My Image Series Presentations are back by popular demand AND at a special Sale into Spring price! When you register for all 6 classes you receive the special price of $49.97 per class. Please click here for more information.

I’d love your feedback. You can connect with me by phone or email, leave a comment right here on the site, or click the contact tab at the bottom of the screen if you are reading this post on the website.

Until next time,

Karen

Make Lingerie Your Friend

sexy lingerieWhat does it matter what’s under your clothes if you’re sitting in a board meeting looking totally professional and in charge? It matters because the right lingerie next to your skin can make you feel better-than-great, confident and put together. Make lingerie your friend! You don’t have a lingerie wardrobe or wouldn’t even know where to start putting one together? No worries! I’m here to help.

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6 Sexy Ways to Dress For Romance

image consultant York regionLet’s face it…romance is a mood thing. Forget trying to find the latest aphrodisiac. Go to your closet instead! What makes you feel sexy? What makes you feel flirty? While you are searching through your closet,  put on some Etta James, Alicia Keyes (Girl On Fire) or Melanie Fiona ( Give It To Me Right) and let your sensual side be your guide. Here are 6 sexy ways to dress for romance especially with Valentine’s Day right around the corner.

1. Live out of the ordinary

Wear animal prints that bring out the wild side in you. You can wear them on the inside with your choice of underwear or on the outside with an animal print scarf, t-shirt, shoes or handbag. Rarrrrrgh!

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How to Dress While You Lose Weight in 2014

dressing while you lose weight“When I lose the weight, I will look great,” is what everyone says to herself at this time of year. But here’s the truth. People who lose weight don’t automatically know how to dress their new body shape once they get it. In fact, they’ll continue to shop for clothes that worked for the previous shape just out of habit.

I bet you have your weight loss plan in place. What I’d like to help you with is looking great throughout the process. It would be a mistake to neglect your shape while transforming into a new one. You work on your weight loss regime and I’ll coach you through making the most of your current wardrobe and helping you decide when it’s time to shop.

Celebrate 5… you are on the right track!

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2014 New Year’s Fashion Resolutions

Karen Dorland Image ConsultantYou and millions of other people will be doing the same this January 2014: resolving to make your life better by changing a habit or two or three by making some New Year’s resolutions. They might even come from this list of common goals:

  • Lose weight
  • Make more money
  • Get healthier
  • Be nicer
  • Be less impulsive
  • Count my blessings

Wouldn’t it be grand if we could accomplish all of that? Yes! But chances are we won’t. However, using our fashion eyes we can make a difference in every single item on this list. It could be easier than you think!

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Happy Holidays from Image Connections and Thank You!

Image Expert York RegionHappy Holidays from Image Connections and Thank you! I would like to express my gratitude to you for signing up and following my fashion tips and ideas.

January is the time when most people plan their goals for the year. Well that applies to how you want to look in 2014 too. Our appearance speaks volumes about us, without us saying a word… so what do you want your appearance to say about you? Stay tuned as I show you ways you can say “I am fabulous!” this 2014.

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De Stress…Holiday Party Checklist

holiday partyTake the stress out of your holiday events by using this handy party checklist. Don’t leave your house until you’ve checked it twice.

One week (minimum) prior to the party:

The party outfit is ready to wear!

Try on your party outfit. Does it fit? Is it clean? Do you have the entire outfit or is something missing? Be sure to check that the head-to-toe pieces are all there. If they aren’t all there, schedule a shopping trip now to finish your look. Does a key piece need alterations? Schedule it. Drop off anything that needs dry cleaning and schedule the pickup.

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